Maybe it is from my daily experiences or maybe it is from the tragedy but I find myself wondering this a lot lately. Yes, our human nature is to judge and compare. For instance, as a writer/blogger, when I read someone's writing, I critique and compare to my own writings. When someone does something that seems counterproductive like staying in a relationship that they seem to not enjoy, I do indeed question their judgement.
But that is not what I am talking about here.
My bewilderment comes from those that feel the need to judge every aspect of everyone's life, and let's be honest: we all know one of those people. Typically, they are the world's biggest gossiper; you may have them in your family, friends, or at work. It seems like they spend most of their day talking about others, and from my experience, it is seldom in a positive manner. At work, they typically are the one to tear down another's work or to instantly jump on the opportunity to talk shit when a person makes a mistake. In your family and friends, they tend to tear down one person to another and then the other person to the first person.
Notice how they never want to about someone directly to their face.
The thing I have never understood is: why? What is to be gained by constantly talking about and tearing down others? Are you so upset with your own life you want to bring others down to feel good about yourself? Is it out of pure jealousy that you feel the need to judge others? Or, are you just that shitty of a person that you just genuinely have hate in your heart all the time?
Listen, if it is grudge, I can promise you it is bringing you down more than it is them. If you are just a bad person, well then that is something you need to deal with on your own. There is no reason to judge others; just live your life for once. Not only does constantly judging others just spread hate and discord, it can manifest to the extremes in terms of racism, sexism, homophobia, ageism, et cetera; this is why tragedies occur.
Quit judging, and let go of the hate. Trust me, your outlook will be much better in life, and for the record, no one actually wants to sit and listen your bullshit all the time anyway.
But that is not what I am talking about here.
My bewilderment comes from those that feel the need to judge every aspect of everyone's life, and let's be honest: we all know one of those people. Typically, they are the world's biggest gossiper; you may have them in your family, friends, or at work. It seems like they spend most of their day talking about others, and from my experience, it is seldom in a positive manner. At work, they typically are the one to tear down another's work or to instantly jump on the opportunity to talk shit when a person makes a mistake. In your family and friends, they tend to tear down one person to another and then the other person to the first person.
Notice how they never want to about someone directly to their face.
The thing I have never understood is: why? What is to be gained by constantly talking about and tearing down others? Are you so upset with your own life you want to bring others down to feel good about yourself? Is it out of pure jealousy that you feel the need to judge others? Or, are you just that shitty of a person that you just genuinely have hate in your heart all the time?
Listen, if it is grudge, I can promise you it is bringing you down more than it is them. If you are just a bad person, well then that is something you need to deal with on your own. There is no reason to judge others; just live your life for once. Not only does constantly judging others just spread hate and discord, it can manifest to the extremes in terms of racism, sexism, homophobia, ageism, et cetera; this is why tragedies occur.
Quit judging, and let go of the hate. Trust me, your outlook will be much better in life, and for the record, no one actually wants to sit and listen your bullshit all the time anyway.
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