I've been called unsympathetic, unfeeling, and even an asshole to be blunt. It has been assumed that I am simply uncaring. I don't know where these rumors come from...Okay, maybe I know where.
Blame it on my severe (self-diagnosed) ADHD or just blame it on my basic outlook on life, but I tend to dwell very little on things. I am not the type to get stuck on what happened because I am already on to the next step.
I feel like blaming it on my childhood or upbringing would be a cop out, but then again, aren't we all shaped by our youth? Because my memory lasts about 3.14159 minutes, I can't say I remember a tremendous amount about those days, but I certainly do not remember times when my dad lingered on something. It is just not in my nature.
I have had relationships (prior to meeting my now-wife of course) last years, months, and even minutes, and guess what? I would say it took me minutes to get over each one. I have been in severe car accidents, substantial legal drama, and even cold-blooded feuds...my concern lasted a short period of time. The reason: there is always shit to do after the fact.
Not long ago, my wife went through a substantial rehab process for a torn knee so that she could get back on the basketball court. Did I feel for her and her pain? Did it hurt to see her that way? Of course it did. But, did I spend most of my time trying to be comforting? Negative. My focus was on the rehab to get better. When my brother-in-law was recovering from a bicep injury, did I focus on his mental well-being? Not really. I made sure to let everyone know that he will get better if he follows through on his recovery.
I am not a cruel person (my opinion), and I am not an unfeeling person. However, I am also not the type to linger in pity, doubt, or anger. When something happens be it insult or injury, I move on. Did someone offend you or hurt you? That sucks. If you want them in your life, you get over it. If you don't need them, cut ties and call it day. Did you get hurt? That sucks. See what you need to do to get better, do it, and move on.
Is it wrong to spend time on the mental well-being? Of course not. Every one is different, and we all process things differently. Your experience may very, but all I know is that keeping my eyes forward has steered me right so far...even if it means being called a dick sometimes in the process. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Blame it on my severe (self-diagnosed) ADHD or just blame it on my basic outlook on life, but I tend to dwell very little on things. I am not the type to get stuck on what happened because I am already on to the next step.
I feel like blaming it on my childhood or upbringing would be a cop out, but then again, aren't we all shaped by our youth? Because my memory lasts about 3.14159 minutes, I can't say I remember a tremendous amount about those days, but I certainly do not remember times when my dad lingered on something. It is just not in my nature.
I have had relationships (prior to meeting my now-wife of course) last years, months, and even minutes, and guess what? I would say it took me minutes to get over each one. I have been in severe car accidents, substantial legal drama, and even cold-blooded feuds...my concern lasted a short period of time. The reason: there is always shit to do after the fact.
Not long ago, my wife went through a substantial rehab process for a torn knee so that she could get back on the basketball court. Did I feel for her and her pain? Did it hurt to see her that way? Of course it did. But, did I spend most of my time trying to be comforting? Negative. My focus was on the rehab to get better. When my brother-in-law was recovering from a bicep injury, did I focus on his mental well-being? Not really. I made sure to let everyone know that he will get better if he follows through on his recovery.
I am not a cruel person (my opinion), and I am not an unfeeling person. However, I am also not the type to linger in pity, doubt, or anger. When something happens be it insult or injury, I move on. Did someone offend you or hurt you? That sucks. If you want them in your life, you get over it. If you don't need them, cut ties and call it day. Did you get hurt? That sucks. See what you need to do to get better, do it, and move on.
Is it wrong to spend time on the mental well-being? Of course not. Every one is different, and we all process things differently. Your experience may very, but all I know is that keeping my eyes forward has steered me right so far...even if it means being called a dick sometimes in the process. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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