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How can people just take, take, take?

Listen, I get that sometimes people need some help. Maybe an unexpected expense comes up, and you need a loan. Maybe, you have fallen in to a tough time and need some help. Or maybe you just ate something that reeks, and you need a piece a gum. I get it. Sometimes, we need to ask for a handout.

But even so, how can someone be so comfortable with it?

Blame it on my independent nature or even on my stubbornness for needing to stand on my own two feet, but one of the worst things in the world to me is asking for help. Whether it is something I intend to pay back (like money) or something I don't intend to pay back (like Ibuprofen), it actually pains me to ask for or take something from someone.

Listen, I am a grown adult (no comments on the grown part), and I am more than capable of taking care of myself. I can buy and pack my own lunch, purchase my own gum, pay my own bills, and do my own shopping. Why should someone else do that for me?

But, as I have found out, not everyone has that same mentality. Whether it is a sense of entitlement or just complete disregard for basic humanity, some seem to be comfortable being a total parasite on others. Some can take anything and everything from anyone without the insight to realize they just look like plagues on society.

If you have the means to take care of yourself, why should everyone else have to carry your freeloading ass? Again, I am more than happy to help those in need. If you are struggling and need some help, I will be the first to lend you a hand. But if I see you wasting your time and money while continuing to take from others, I wouldn't bother asking me for something. I would only offer one thing: the question, "how do you live with yourself?".

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